Philo
Before you bring your question, let us understand you better. This takes one minute.
What's weighing on you
What's been weighing on you lately that you haven't said out loud?
What you want
What do you want that you're afraid to admit you want?
Your deepest fear
What are you actually afraid of when you make a hard decision?
A good life
What does a good life look like in plain language?
Wisdom
What would the wisest person who knows you tell you right now?
Before you ask
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What's the immediate context? What happened recently that brings this question up now?
What would it mean if you already knew the answer?
What are you afraid will happen if you actually act on what you're considering?
What would need to be true for you to feel confident in a decision?
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What you are feeling is real — and help is available
Philo is here when you are ready to think things through.

But strong feelings about hurting someone — whether a person or an animal — deserve a human voice before a philosophical one. That is not a judgment. It is care. Text HOME to 741741 The Crisis Text Line is free, confidential, and available 24/7.
Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the US.

You can also call 1-800-662-4357 (SAMHSA) for mental health support, any time.
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Asking this question takes courage
Wanting to stop hurting someone you care about is one of the most important things a person can face honestly.

Philo can help you think through what is underneath this — and the reading tool will be here when you are ready for that work.

But the most important first step is a human one. The National Domestic Violence Hotline has counselors available right now who work specifically with people who want to change their behavior. 1-800-799-7233 Call 1-800-799-7233 (The Hotline) — confidential, 24/7.
Text START to 88788 if you prefer to write.
Chat at thehotline.org.
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Philo can't help with this one
Philo is built for philosophical deliberation — questions about how to live, what to believe, what to do when there is no clear answer.

This question moves from deliberation into planning something that could seriously harm another person. That is a different kind of request, and not one Philo is the right instrument for.

If something difficult is going on underneath this, the Crisis Text Line is available — text HOME to 741741, free and confidential.
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This question deserves a real human voice
Philo is a tool for deliberation, and it will always be here for you.

But some questions need a person on the other end first — someone trained to listen without judgment, available right now, at no cost. 988 Call or text 988 (US) to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.
Chat at 988lifeline.org if you prefer to write.

You do not have to be in immediate danger to call. If something is weighing on you, that is enough.